Eliphas last edited by
Not an easy topic to talk about since I feel the same about life myself but only hang on to more than the person Im about to talk about - but what or how do you help someone thinking and trying to kill themselves, because life is too difficult for them, they are across the world and your trying to get to them - when they only hang on, because of you. When they have no one else to help them but you. Its a difficult situation because of this and more.
Im finding it really hard to say or think the right things, or to even deal with this, so Im asking what do would you say or do in this situation. Just maybe I can some better idea's or anything so I just have to ask. Sorry to those who just finished the slums quest with me, was gonna do more but I had to log off because of this.
Paradox last edited by
Honestly there is no single answer that'l fix everything… Circumstances that lead to depression are different for everyone and generally tailored to their lives...
There is no real answer to your question, but all I can say for sure is that letting the person know people care could/should and would help... Some people aren't able to commit suicide when they otherwise would simply because they know it'll hurt others.
Broken Gunblade last edited by
I will PM you what I know.
B-Rock last edited by
The best you can do is what you doing now. Only so much one man can do when the lines of communication are physically farther away than plausible. Much like any other emotion, it will either pass, or linger on in them for the rest of their lives. Your job as a friend is to keep them loving life. Keeping them entertained. Forcing them to think of the good things. But its hard to be a close friend and psychotherapist at the same time due to emotion. I'm sure there are plenty hot-lines you can call yourself to talk to certified professionals on this problem.
senseitravis last edited by
A friend of mine killed himself after coming back from Somalia a few years ago. He went Marines when I went Army after high school, but we remained good friends for years. We had both trained in Shotokan karate under his father. Something cracked in him over there and he never did make the transition back. He had the professional help, the medication, everything that his family could think of and the V.A. could provide. I went to visit him all the time. I tried to get him interested in the things that he used to love, the things that we did together. Training, movies, anything. Nothing worked. It was like he was already gone and it just killed me to see him like that. I still second guess myself all the time about what I could have done or said to alter his decision to take his life. In the end though there was nothing else I could probably have done. War, and the mental illness that in brought on, took it's toll and he ended his life.
I really feel for you in the situation you find yourself in Eliphas. I don't have any good answer for you. I'm just a blue-collar guy that likes martial arts and video games. I mean, I'll pray for you and your friend, but I really think it sounds like your doing what you can. If you can get your friend some professional help, and your there in whatever capacity your able to be, then that's it. Pray to God that it's enough to bring them back from that feeling of wanting to die.
golw last edited by
If it's a serious situation, like it sounds, you have to contact their friends or family that live close to them. If that's not possible, get in touch with their employers or the authorities somehow.
Outside of picking up and flying across the world, I don't know what you can do except get someone near them to help.
I'm considering these things in a worst case scenario situation of course. But if it comes down to it, you need to be the bad guy and save them from themselves, even if they consider it a betrayal.
AronFF last edited by
Try to find something together what links him to life. I mean something what always makes him happy. Or an activity which he can do and cannot deny HE IS USEFUL doing it. Even if 167 hours a week he can find reasons to think himself useless, that one hour may count…
Charity, or spending time with children comes to my mind. Children always manage to brighten my day up, at least. Probably it isn't quite general.
Also... faith can change lives.. but I don't want to seem as someone who comes up with religious bullshit the worst time. He'd need group specialized for this, I suppose. There are such groups existing in the frames of churches, but finding them can be hard enough even if you live near...